Friday, December 28, 2007

Wondrous x'mas in Singapore!

On Christmas day, I had this special chance to visit the 'Nalada Trail' exhibition held in the Asian Civilization Museum in Singapore! It was so wonderous for Cell from KMSPKS to introduce us the special Buddhist Guided Tour for this wordly historial & art exhibition.

I was truly overwhelmed with the arrangement, the historial artefacts on display brought in from various museum, the historial experience of ancient Buddhist empire spreading as far wide as to Indus Valley and Chinese civilization...

So much knowledge acquired in such a short visit, especially for me who didn't know how Mahayana Buddhism came about. I experienced a precious moment when the tour guide lead us to a room with a majestic display of the Buddha's relic, that took my breath away.

At the end of the exhibition, I wish that I could bring INCOVAR (or even anyone interested back home) to Singapore to visit not only the big famous Buddhist temples in this small island but also this not to be missed Nalanda Trail at the ACM! Even the museum itself is an architecture beauty that is worthy of a photography adventure.

Having said all that, I would like to thank Cell for bringing us around KMSPKS and even showing us his office place! I was so excited when the staff there showed us this 'Dharma for Urbanites' diary notebook. I'd wanted to get something like this, a Buddhist inspired 2008 diary as gifts for my INCOVAR committees, but none to be found. *hint hint to sukhihotu & 9bugz*

Now you tell me, if you'd like to have a Buddhistic spiritual journal for your hectic life? Imagine inside this journal you can find the dates for all the Buddhist events? And it looks trendy not typically old-fashion!

OK, now come to think of it, I should have gave donations to defray the printing cost! Yes, they'd printed this to be given out for free! Wow... *Sadhu*

If you're reading this and already felt excited reading this as much I'm writing this, and you really would want to have a copy, yes I've gotten 10 copies exclusively for you, @ INCOVAR.

You can find me at BGF centre during this BGF Year End Party on 31 Dec 2007, or pls leave your comment here & tell me why you'd like to have one.

Amituofo! Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu!
Happy holiday season to you & may you be blessed with a happy inspiring vibrant new year!

Wednesday, December 26, 2007


Some thoughts to appreciate. nevertheless make the fullest of what we have...

Thanks to Hui Ling for sharing.

Thursday, December 20, 2007

Dare to go for it?

White Water Rafting in Sungai Selangor near KKB, located a mere 1 hour drive away from KL City! Sungai Selangor offers the best and ideal place for White Water Rafting. With distance of 7 km, this river boasts a rapid of Grade 1 to Grade 5.

Make a date with BGF!

:: BGF Year End Party on 31st December 2007 ::

BGF will be having Year End Party and also welcoming the year of 2008 at BGF Centre, 60A, Jalan 19/3, Petaling Jaya. We will be having catered food however, if you wish to bring food you are most welcome.

The program consist of food, games, sing-along, lucky draws and chanting to welcome the new year 2008.

There will be a charge of RM15 per person for adults and children 11 years and below is free.

RSVP to the following person by SMS or call:-
Sis Mei Joon : 012.351.7615
Sis Dolly Teoh : 019.356.8879
Sis Doris Choong: 012.311.0294
Sis Elaine Low : 013.352.7662
Bro Brian : 012.214.9020 (after 7 pm)

You can also confirm and pay during the dates that we have Dhamma talks, Metta meditation session and Musical Puja at BGF Centre. Closing date is on 28/12/2007.

:: Series of Dhamma Talks ::

Date : December 20, 2007 Thursday @ 8.30 pm
Speaker: Venerable Dr. H. Gunaratana
Topic : Misunderstanding of Karma and Rebirth

Venerable Henepola Gunaratana is a well learned scholar and meditation teacher. Venerable was ordained at the age of 12 in Sri Lanka. At the age of 20, he was given higher ordination in Kandy in 1947. He left for the United States in 1968. Bhante G regularly leads retreats at the Bhavana Society, West Virginia and elsewhere.

In 1985 Bhante G co-founded the Bhavana Society and became its abbot. In 1996, Bhante G received the title of "Chief Sangha Nayaka Thera of North America".

Date : December 22, 2007, Saturday @ 8.00 pm
Speaker: Venerable Bhikkuni Kusuma
Topic : Expectations of a Lay Buddhist in the Modern Era

Venerable is the first Theravada nun in its revival since late 1980s. A former university professor who traced the continuity of the Theravada bhikkuni lineage in China.

Date : December 30, 2007, Sunday @ 8.00 pm
Speaker: Venerable Ariya Nyani
Topic : The Four Basis of Happiness

Venerable was born in Switzerland. She started to practice meditation during her training as a music and dance teacher at the conservatory in Zurich (1980-1984). In 1992, she went to Burma and ordained as a nun. Since then she practiced vipassana and metta meditation under the guidance of the renowed meditation master Ven. Chanmyay Sayadaw. She has translated Sayadaw U Indaka's book on Metta Meditation from Burmese into English and German.

All are welcome to attend the above talks. Bring a friend along.

...Inspiring the Future...
BGF Administrator

Sunday, December 16, 2007

for a hero

would like to share a courageous, selfless and brave real story with you guys.

a story of a young man who saved someone's life, at the same time lose his.

for a hero.

Friday, December 07, 2007

: : post 28th IDC : :

after a grueling 4 days without meat... see what happens....


yup as expected, half of the camp participant (carnivores from IMU and Penang) RUSHED to the nearest BKT stop.

5 guys, 2 girls and a BAK KUT TEH place =)

girls =)


"emo trio? "

all stuffed

those who missed out, fret not... "the klang boys" will be glad to bring u there.


Monday, December 03, 2007

Yeoh ah yeoh! The wonderful camp...

*why Janice blocked the INCOVAR banner?

Camp Warden :: Daniel Ngan
Assistance Camp Warden :: Foong Xiao Thoong
Time Keeper :: Janice Neoh

Yeoh ah Yeoh! Yeoh ah yeoh! Yeoh ah yeoh ah yeoh ah yeoh!

28th INCOVAR Dhamma Camp with inspiration and love

Calling all 28th IDC Participants, Committees, Facis, Helpers and all...

We hereby proudfully announce (online)

that the 28th INCOVAR Dhamma Camp

is a SUCCESS!!!

*tepuk INCOVAR*

on the behalf of all, we would like to say a MAHA SADHU to all who have contributed to the camp - committees, facis, helpers, participants, speakers, panelists, invited guests, choir trainer, donors, well-wishers. Of course, mustn't forget modern technology such as emails, chat messengers, telco, cameras etc. and foodie places like Kanna's, McD to keep our hunger away. and everyone and everything that has contributed to the road of success!

So now, we're all still in the hangover of INCOVAR spirit....

*tepuk eou-ah-eou*

We would really like to hear your sharings throughout the 4 days in KCBA. Share with us your funnies, pictures, oohs and aahs. Email us or leave your message on our chatbox. We would like to share them with the internet community. We'll post up messages and pictures for you (if you dont have a blogspot account), or link your blog URL here! alternatively... get yourself linked to our Friendster, Facebook and LiveSpace (check sidebar)

Can't believe i still fall in love with the camp after attending for 4 times!
~ Angeline Tan @
*she's a fast one!

E-Wen's pictures @

and the amazing part is, some of them only meet up in incovar (meaning abt twice a year), but they are like good old friends who hang out together everyday..

~ Chin Yeong @

on another note, for those of you especially first timers who has been asking to get the songs from i.gemz, our last hymn singing session with Bro Daniel Kwok on Sunday morning, you can get their first album from Sukhihotu PJ. It's a Buddhist shop selling CDs, Dhamma books, candles, statues etc. They have just moved to their new premise near the Old Subang Airport. Click here to find out the location. (Psst... i heard it's much bigger and better! must visit!!)

Another place to get the CDs will be at Buddhist Gem Fellowship (BGF, which is INCOVAR parent body) located in 60A, Jln 19/3, 46300 Petaling Jaya. You can ask sis Mei Joon on this.

i.gemz's first album - Cradle in Buddha's Arms (we're waiting for the second one...)

and for those in the north, you can get the CD from Sukhihotu Penang at 1-T Jalan Gottlieb, 10350 Penang, Malaysia. Tel: 604-2294811. Fax: 604-2294737. Email: The premise is opposite Penang Chinese Girls' High School (Peng Hwa) at the shophouses located at the traffic light junction.

Well, so what are you waiting for? Get connected and share your thoughts and pictures with all!

because @ INCOVAR
... we inspire ...

Monday, November 26, 2007

Series of Dhamma Talks ~ 28th IDC

There will be a series of talks & forum organised for the 28th INCOVAR Dhamma Camp. Visitors are allowed to sit in and listen to the talks.

Date : 29th November – 2nd December 2007
Venue : Klang & Coast Buddhist Society (KCBA)

Here and Now ~ Talk by Bhante Kumara
Thusday 29 Nov 2007 4pm

Individual Expressions ~ Moderated by Dr. Chan Kah Yein
Friday 30 Nov 2007 9.45am

Self Discovery ~ Talk by Uncle Vijaya

Friday 30 Nov 2007 3.00pm

Importance of Love ~ Forum Panelist : Bro. Charlie Chia, Dr. Chan Kah Yein, Bro. Poh Wee Fah
Saturday 1 Dec 2007 8.15am

Simple Steps of Wisdom, Journey To Awakening ~ Talk by Dr. Tan Ho Soon
Sunday 2 Dec 2007 8.30am

Acceptance for the 28th INCOVAR Dhamma Camp!

~*~ Below is an email that all who have registered for the 28th IDC will receive in their mailbox. Please be informed of the camp registration info & process. ~*~

Dear Brother / Sister-in-the-Dhamma,


Congratulations! We are pleased to confirm your participation for the 28th INCOVAR Dhamma Camp.

2. To ensure smooth running of the camp, kindly report for camp registration as follow:

Date : Thursday, 29th November 2007
Time : 0830 hours to 0915 hours
Place : Klang and Coast Buddhist Association (KCBA)

3. You are advised to bring the following for your personal usage in camp:
  • Casual wear
  • Toiletries
  • Extra trousers / comfy pants (dark coloured)
  • Stationeries
  • Personal medication
  • Enthusiasm and a strong desire to learn
  • Camera(optional)

(Please note that DECENT attire – knee-length and below – is to be worn in the temple premises at all times)

4. For those who arrive early, i.e. Wednesday night (28th November 2007), accommodation can be arranged. Please refer to point 7 below.

5. Please take note that all participants must stay throughout the four days duration of the camp. You will not be allowed to break camp until 430pm on Sunday, 2nd December 2007. If you need to break camp earlier, kindly inform the Chairperson in advance.

6. Transportation to KCBA:

A. For those driving there on their own:
Please find attached map for your guidance. You can contact Bro. Yong Wei or Bro. Wei Loong for assistance.

B. For those taking public transportation:
Please take the KTM Komuter train and stop at the KLANG STATION. Please liaise with Bro. Yong Wei regarding the pick- up time.

7. Action needed from you (participants): Confirm with us regarding (a) if you need accommodation on 28th November 2007 and (b) your transportation to KCBA on 29th November 2007. All confirmations should be sent upon receipt of this letter or no later than 25th November 2007.

For any queries and confirmations of accommodation/transportation, please contact:

Bro. Tan Wei Loong 017-3355092
Bro. Lee Yong Wei 012-6974758
Sis. Yong Swee Khem 016-6037306

We look forward to meeting you at 28th INCOVAR Dhamma Camp!

Thank you and may the Triple Gem be with you!

Because at INCOVAR,
…we inspire…

Tan Wei Loong
28th INCOVAR Dhamma Camp

Saturday, November 24, 2007

Malaysia-Singapore Youth Exchange @ BGF Centre

Check out the pictures and the feedback received from Cell who lead the group from KMSPKS.

Having said that, the What's NEXT...
- Msians (ie. D2y) plan to visit KMSPKS temple in Spore in the not too distant future (temple tour takes 2.5hour)!
- Muihan proposed to have formal SG-MY dialogue or exchange annually. Jinhwa say why not TH-MY-SG rotation like the YBAM-YBAT exchange that's already in placed.
- CheeOnn will forward to Sis. Ching Wi (tai ka cheh from KMSPKS) the last Spore Buddhist federation contact so that she can take it from there.

HAVING said that, summary of dialogue...
- Spore is very advance technologically compared to Msians buddhist group, Msians admire that.
- Msia have a more developed buddhist community where diff Buddhist groups can co-work together, Spore admire that.
- Both countries have similar problems phrased in difference context, as both countries are politically different.

HAVING SAID THAT, mei joon must not forget to thank...
- INCOVARians who came to support, Adeline & WL inspite of having to work overtime exhaustingly at the GCB prior to that.
- Bro. Cedric, Nancy & Simon for being the 'My-Own-Drivers' for the Sporeans & also for the pizza & also for washing up after that!
- Wendy & Likim for your food without asking for claim back :P haha
- D2Y & SJBAYS for giving alot of 'Having-Said-That..' inputs for the dialogue.
- Chee Onn, Chin aik, Siying, Mei Fong, Lee Fei, JiaShin, Wei Hoong, Junie for coming & helped set up the food/centre for the evening...

Lastly & most importantly, I must thank Cell and all his friends from Spore who came all the way to join the GCB and actively participate in this simple evening of Youth Exchange!


...we inspire...

Hi Meijoon, Mui Han, Mun Yee, cheeky Jin Hwa and fellow youth leaders,

We had a wonderful time at the gathering last weekend. So much fun and laughter and genuine sharing of what Buddhist youth work is like in Malaysia and in Singapore.

Like to take this opportunity to give you our sincere feedback.

  • A fun and casual meet-up
  • Good dialogue exchange which provided both sides with better understanding of each other situations
  • Nice vegetarian food
  • Heart warming and inspiring to see so many like minded Buddhist youths practicing and propagating the Dharma
  • Thank you for hosting the youth exchange! Impressed by your genuine and perseverance in contributing to the Buddhism, keep it up!
  • Thank you very much for the warm hospitality shown to us during our visit. It was very interesting to hear your experiences in your various groups and very helpful to learn and ponder over your experiences as well. Hope that we can continue to keep in touch and grow in the dharma together.
  • Thank you for taking the time and effort to organize this gathering. It really felt like a warm family gathering! It was really heartening to hear from the Malaysia youths share their experiences on how to spread Buddhism. It was a very fulfilling gathering that bonded the Singaporean and the Malaysians together. Thank you so much!
  • Too little time, it should be a full day event!

Possible Follow-ups

  • Incentive trip to Singapore for Malaysian youths in Dec 2007
  • Hold Singapore – Malaysia Youth Dialogue in 2008 in Singapore
  • Attend Voices of Harmony II in Singapore, Dec 2008

On behalf of all of us from Singapore, we wish to express our deepest gratitude and congrats on your continuous effort to bring dharma to youths in Malaysia.

Many of us are on Facebook too, do look for us :)

Please keep in touch!
till we meet again. meanwhile be well be happy!
Cell. Tono
Programme Executive
Department of Youth & Arts
Dharma Propagation Division
Kong Meng San Phor Kark See Monastery
+65 9765 4322 +656849 5345

Friday, November 16, 2007

Invitation to INCOVAR-Singapore Exchange on 18Nov Evening

Sukhihotu! It is my pleasure to invite you all to join in the INCOVAR Exchange a.k.a Meetup with KMSPKS youth group from Singapore on this Sunday evening at BGF after the GCB.

Date :: 18 Nov 2007 (Sunday)

Time :: 7.00pm - 10.00pm

Dinner is served ala potluck!

Since some of our S'porean participants are vegetarian, please bring some vegetarian food stuff along!

It'll be a good opportunity for fellowship exchange between the well established KMSPKS youth movement and we Malaysian youths! All INCOVARian undergraduates living in nearby BGF are welcomed to this simple potluck dinner gathering. You can lotsa chitchat, exchange of ideas, and a chance for us to learn from our brothers and sisters from across the border.

Contact sis. Mei Joon [012.351.7615] to ask her what food should you bring. For map to BGF click here.

because at INCOVAR,
...we inspire...

Monday, October 22, 2007

:: Transforming The Mind :: A Message to all Undergrads

Dear brothers & sisters in the Dhamma,

Do you know how to train the mind?

Do you know what it is you are in for in the 5th GLOBAL Conference on Buddhism?

This global conference, the 5th in a series that began in 2000, is a unique opportunity for you to explore the different perspectives of mind-training in order to transform your mind towards achieving lasting happiness. It is structured to provide the raw materials for debate, thought and insight.

The extraordinary faculty of international speakers, both lay and monastic, will guide you along this process of training, developing and eventually transforming your mind with the ultimate goal of finding true happiness in your everday lives.

And it is happening right HERE in MALAYSIA
in Sunway Convention Centre, PJ
on 17-18 November 2007!

PROGRAM Highlight
Saturday - Nov 17, 2007

Session I :: Know Your Mind - How to Unravel it? [Moderator: Ms Low Mi Yen]
- Potentialities of Developed Mind ~ Ven. Aggacitta
- Calming the Mind-Lessons from Chinese Chan ~ Ven. Dr. Heng Sure
- Taming the Monkey Mind-Lessons from Tibetan Lojong ~ Dr. Thupten Jinpa

Session II :: The Destructive Mind - How to Transform it? [Moderator: Dr. Chan Kah Yein]
- Bringing Peace to Criminals in Prisons ~ Ven. Robina Curtin
- Helping Abused Children Find Happiness ~ Roshi Dr. Jan Chozen Bays

Session III :: The Healing Mind - How to Sustain it? [Moderator: Dr. Goh Pik Pin]
- Transforming Difficult Relationships ~ Dr. Tan Eng Kong
- Living Life with a Purpose ~ Ajahn Brahmavamso

Sunday - Nov 18, 2007
Special Talk :: Following the Buddha's Footsteps - Bringing Happiness to Others ~ Ven. Ming Yi [Moderator: Datuk Dr. Victor Wee]

Session IV :: The Illuminated Mind at Wrok [Moderator: Dr. Lim Tuck Meng]
- Managing Stress at Work ~ Dr. Danai Chanchaochai
- Mindfulness - The Secret to Success at the Workplace ~ Ajahn Brahmavamso

Session V :: Forum - Preparin the Mind for Death [Moderator: Mr. Ang Choo Hong]
- The Theravada Approach ~ Ven. Aggacitta
- The Chinese Mahayana Approach ~ Ve. Dr. Heng Sure
- The Tibetan Approach ~ Dr. Thupten Jinpa
- The Zen Approach ~ Roshi Dr. Jan Chozen Bays

Hurry up & REGISTER NOW!
Download Form here!

For students or undergraduates who are interested to join,
please contact sis. Mei Joon [hp: 012-3517615] for special student-price offer! *hint - negotiable*

organized by

Monday, October 08, 2007

20 Days To Go!

Hey you there!

Have you registered for the
28th INCOVAR Dhamma Camp yet?

Ah... you have eh? Good for you....
Wait..... you haven't? Hmmm.....
So what are you WAITING for?

20 more days to go before closing!

Perhaps still not sure of your class schedule
or curious to know what we have for you this time
or how about that trip/vacation with other friends
... you're still undecided ...

It's okay, we understand
We'll remind you again in later time
Just mark on your calendar

Closing date for 28th IDC registration
29 OCTOBER 2007

* click on the poster at right sidebar for more details *
or head over to the INCOVAR Website at

~ * ~ * ~ * ~ * ~ * ~

psst... we've got a secret code this time
stay tuned to know what's the code is about....!

Thursday, October 04, 2007

Short Essay "What The Modern Woman Wants"

It's worthwhile taking 5 mins to read this essay.
Have read this before and it is definitely worth having another read...

In the annual Commonwealth Essay Competition, Amanda Chong of Raffles Girls' School (Secondary) chose to compete in the older category and won with a piece on the restlessness of modern life.

Her short story, titled What The Modern Woman Wants, focused on the conflict in values between an old lady and her independent-minded daughter.

'Through my story, I attempted to convey the unique East-versus-West struggles and generation gaps that I felt were characteristic of young people in my country,' said Amanda, who likes drama, history and literature and wants to become a lawyer and a politician.

Chief examiner Charles Kemp called her piece a 'powerfully moving and ironical critique of modern restlessness and its potentially cruel consequences'. The writing is fluent and assured, with excellent use of dialogue.


What the Modern Woman Wants
By Amanda Chong Wei-Zhen

The old woman sat in the backseat of the magenta convertible as it careened down the highway, clutching tightly to the plastic bag on her lap, afraid it may be kidnapped by the wind. She was not used to such speed, with trembling hands she pulled the seatbelt tighter but was careful not to touch the patent leather seats with her callused fingers, her daughter had warned her not to dirty it, 'Fingerprints show very clearly on white, Ma.'

Her daughter, Bee Choo, was driving and talking on her sleek silver mobile phone using big words the old woman could barely understand. 'Finance' 'Liquidation' 'Assets' 'Investments'... Her voice was crisp and important and had an unfamiliar lilt to it. Her Bee Choo sounded like one of those foreign girls on television. She was speaking in an American accent.

The old lady clucked her tongue in disapproval. 'I absolutely cannot have this. We have to sell!' Her daughter exclaimed agitatedly as she stepped on the accelerator; her perfectly manicured fingernails gripping onto the steering wheel in irritation.

'I can't DEAL with this anymore!' she yelled as she clicked the phone shut and hurled it angrily toward the backseat. The mobile phone hit the old woman on the forehead and nestled soundlessly into her lap. She calmly picked it up and handed it to her daughter.

'Sorry, Ma,' she said, losing the American pretence and switching to Mandarin. 'I have a big client in America. There have been a lot of problems.' The old lady nodded knowingly. Her daughter was big and important.

Bee Choo stared at her mother from the rear view window, wondering what she was thinking. Her mother's wrinkled countenance always carried the same cryptic look.

The phone began to ring again, an artificially cheerful digital tune, which broke the awkward
silence. 'Hello, Beatrice! Yes, this is Elaine.' Elaine. The old woman cringed. I didn't name her Elaine. She remembered her daughter telling her, how an English name was very important for 'networking', Chinese ones being easily forgotten.

'Oh no, I can't see you for lunch today. I have to take the ancient relic to the temple for her weird daily prayer ritual.'

Ancient Relic. The old woman understood perfectly it was referring to her. Her daughter always assumed that her mother's silence meant she did not comprehend.

'Yes, I know! My car seats will be reeking of joss sticks!' The old woman pursed her lips tightly, her hands gripping her plastic bag in defence. The car curved smoothly into the temple courtyard. It looked almost garish next to the dull sheen of the ageing temple's roof. The old woman got out of the back seat, and made her unhurried way to the main hall.

Her daughter stepped out of the car in her business suit and stilettos and reapplied her lipstick as she made her brisk way to her mother's side.

'Ma, I'll wait outside. I have an important phone call to make,' she said, not bothering to hide her disgust at the pungent fumes of incense.

The old lady hobbled into the temple hall and lit a joss stick, she knelt down solemnly and whispered her now familiar daily prayer to the Gods.

Thank you God of the Sky, you have given my daughter luck all these years. Everything I prayed for, you have given her. She has everything a young woman in this world could possibly want. She has a big house with a swimming pool, a maid to help her, as she is too clumsy to sew or cook.

Her love life has been blessed; she is engaged to a rich and handsome angmoh man. Her company is now the top financial firm and even men listen to what she says. She lives the perfect life. You have given her everything except happiness. I ask that the gods be
merciful to her even if she has lost her roots while reaping the harvest of success.

What you see is not true, she is a filial daughter to me. She gives me a room in her big house and provides well for me. She is rude to me only because I affect her happiness. A young woman does not want to be hindered by her old mother. It is my fault.

The old lady prayed so hard that tears welled up in her eyes. Finally, with her head bowed in reverence she planted the half-burnt joss stick into an urn of smouldering ashes.

She bowed once more. The old woman had been praying for her daughter for thirty-two years. When her stomach was round like a melon, she came to the temple and prayed that it was a

Then the time was ripe and the baby slipped out of her womb, bawling and adorable with fat thighs and pink cheeks, but unmistakably, a girl. Her husband had kicked and punched her for producing a useless baby who could not work or carry the family name.

Still, the woman returned to the temple with her new-born girl tied to her waist in a sarong and prayed that her daughter would grow up and have everything she ever wanted. Her husband left her and she prayed that her daughter would never have to depend on a man.

She prayed every day that her daughter would be a great woman, the woman that she, meek and uneducated, could never become. A woman with nengkan; the ability to do anything she set her mind to. A woman who commanded respect in the hearts of men. When she opened her mouth to speak, precious pearls would fall out and men would listen.

She will not be like me, the woman prayed as she watched her daughter grow up and drift away from her, speaking a language she scarcely understood. She watched her daughter transform from a quiet girl, to one who openly defied her, calling her laotu; old-fashioned. She wanted her mother to be 'modern', a word so new there was no Chinese word for it.

Now her daughter was too clever for her and the old woman wondered why she had prayed like that. The gods had been faithful to her persistent prayer, but the wealth and success that poured forth so richly had buried the girl's roots and now she stood, faceless, with no identity, bound to the soil of her ancestors by only a string of origami banknotes.

Her daughter had forgotten her mother's values. Her wants were so ephemeral; that of a modern woman. Power, Wealth, access to the best fashion boutiques, and yet her daughter had not found true happiness. The old woman knew that you could find happiness with much
less. When her daughter left the earth everything she had would count for nothing. People would look to her legacy and say that she was a great woman, but she would be forgotten once the wind blows over, like the ashes of burnt paper convertibles and mansions.

The old woman wished she could go back and erase all her big hopes and prayers for her daughter; now she had only one want: That her daughter be happy. She looked out of the temple gate. She saw her daughter speaking on the phone, her brow furrowed with anger
and worry. Being at the top is not good, the woman thought, there is only one way to go from there - down.

The old woman carefully unfolded the plastic bag and spread out a packet of beehoon in front of the altar. Her daughter often mocked her for worshipping porcelain Gods. How could she pray to them so faithfully and expect pieces of ceramic to fly to her aid? But her daughter had her own gods too, idols of wealth, success and power that she was enslaved to and worshipped every day of her life.

Every day was a quest for the idols, and the idols she worshipped counted for nothing in eternity. All the wants her daughter had would slowly suck the life out of her and leave her, an empty soulless shell at the altar.

The old lady watched her joss stick. The dull heat had left a teetering grey stem that was on the danger of collapsing. Modern woman nowadays, the old lady sighed in resignation, as she bowed to the east one final time to end her ritual. Modern woman nowadays want so much that they lose their souls and wonder why they cannot find it.

Her joss stick disintegrated into a soft grey powder. She met her daughter outside the temple, the same look of worry and frustration was etched on her daughter's face. An empty expression, as if she was ploughing through the soil of her wants looking for the one thing that would sow the seeds of happiness.

They climbed into the convertible in silence and her daughter drove along the highway, this time not as fast as she had done before.

'Ma,' Bee Choo finally said. 'I don't know how to put this. Mark and I have been talking about it and we plan to move out of the big house. The property market is good now, and we managed to get a buyer willing to pay seven million for it. We decided we'd prefer a cosier penthouse apartment instead. We found a perfect one in Orchard Road. Once we move in to our apartment
we plan to get rid of the maid, so we can have more space to ourselves...'

The old woman nodded knowingly. Bee Choo swallowed hard. 'We'd get someone to come in
to do the housework and we can eat out - but once the maid is gone, there won't be anyone to look after you. You will be awfully lonely at home and, besides that, the apartment is rather small. There won't be space. We thought about it for a long time, and we decided the best thing for you is if you moved to a Home. There's one near Hougang - it's a Christian home, a very
nice one.'

The old woman did not raise an eyebrow. 'I've been there, the matron is willing to take you in. It's beautiful with gardens and lots of old people to keep you company! I hardly have time for you, you'd be happier there.'

'You'd be happier there, really.' Her daughter repeated as if to affirm herself. This time the old woman had no plastic bag of food offerings to cling tightly to; she bit her lip and fastened her seat belt, as if it would protect her from a daughter who did not want her anymore. She sunk
deep into the leather seat, letting her shoulders sag, and her fingers trace the white seat.

'Ma?' her daughter asked, searching the rear view window for her mother. 'Is everything okay?'
What had to be done, had to be done. 'Yes,' she said firmly, louder than she intended, 'if it will make you happy,' she added more quietly.

'It's for you, Ma! You'll be happier there. You can move there tomorrow, I already got the maid to pack your things.' Elaine said triumphantly, mentally ticking yet another item off her agenda.

'I knew everything would be fine.'

Elaine smiled widely; she felt liberated. Perhaps getting rid of her mother would make her happier. She had thought about it. It seemed the only hindrance in her pursuit of happiness. She was happy now. She had everything a modern woman ever wanted; Money, Status, Career, Love,Power and now, Freedom, without her mother and her old-fashioned ways to weigh her down...

Yes, she was free. Her phone buzzed urgently, she picked it up and read the message, still beaming from ear to ear. 'Stocks 10% increase!'

Yes, things were definitely beginning to look up for her... And while searching for the meaning of life in the luminance of her hand phone screen, the old woman in the backseat became invisible, and she did not see the tears.

Monday, October 01, 2007


A Professional Training Development Programme by Buddhist Gem Fellowship (BGF)

Theme : Leading & Managing a BALANCE lifestyle

Objective: To share knowledge and skills with Buddhists who want to lead a balance lifestyle

Learning Outcomes:
At the end of the programme, participants will be able to --

  • bring your management skills to a higher level
  • handle conflict at work in a professional way
  • manage time more efficiently
  • understand and use emotional intelligence to your advantage
  • develop poise and elegance
  • market yourself in the corporate world with your winning CV
  • understand the significance of daily Buddhist practices
  • develop self-confidence
  • lead a balance lifestyle

RM75/= for BGF members
RM100/= for non-members
Fee is inclusive of course materials and refreshments.

Training Methodology:
Experiential & Interactive learning. Sharing of knowledge by highly qualified instructors.

A group of Buddhist professionals, which comprise of Bro Keek Seng Bee, Sis Kay Ku, Bro Loi, Bro Tan Huat Chye, Bro Cheong Kwai Fong, Bro Khoo Nee Wern and many more who have kindly volunteered their services to facilitate this course.

Active in Buddhist activities and/or exhibit potential for Buddhist work.
Committed and willing to put in extra time and effort for personal development.

No of participants:
Limited to a maximum of 20 pax to ensure personal attention and effectiveness. Closing date of application is 12 October 2007. Successful applicants will be informed latest by 15 October 2007.

Course Schedule:
This course comprises of 6 sessions as the following:
21 Oct 07, Sunday 10am – 1pm Emotional Intelligence

28 Oct 07, Sunday 10am – 1pm Groom for Success

11 Nov 07, Sunday 10am – 1pm Smarter Time Management

25 Nov 07, Sunday 10am – 1pm Dealing with Conflict at Work

9 Dec 07, Sunday 10am – 1pm Career Management 1

16 Dec 07, Sunday 10am – 1pm Buddhist Practices in our Daily Life
Note: The organizer has the right to reschedule the timing and topics should there be any unavoided circumstances.

BGF Center
No. 60A, Jalan 19/3, 46300 Petaling Jaya

Contact Person:
Junie Nioh (h/p no: 019-2247138)
Quek Mei Joon (h/p no: 012-3517615)
Doris Chong (h/p no: 012-3110294)

Sunday, September 30, 2007

Support the Monks' protest in Burma

[taken off Facebook's "Support the Monks' protest in Burma" group]

For more details: Contact: Burma Campaign UK
12 noon – worldwide
More information to follow
Strong reports are emerging ofsplits within the army and the Generals. More to follow.

They are arresting and imprisoning monks- so far over 700 have been arrested.
They have raided dozens of monasteries
While the regime is stating only 9 have been killed the number is far closer to 200
They have snipers on tops of buildings to pick off the leaders.
We MUST protest!

1 - Protest - Look below for details of worldwide protests.

2 - Spread the word - Invite your friends to this group, email all your family and friends, write to local newspapers

3 - Write to your elected official - they will respond if enough people contact them.

4 - Email the companies that still operate in Burma, their email addresses are listed here

5 - Sign up for the petition!

Free Burma Coalition. Insightful opinion from Dr. Zarni regarding Burma and its campaigns. UK based.

Burma Campaign UK (in need of funding if you can help):

US Campaign for Burma:
You can contact me directly- I am the campaigns coordinator in charge of the national grassroots-
I'm starting a blog to keep people updated on news inside. My boss Aung Din works hard gathering information from eyewitnesses inside and from other groups - for English updates-

Open Society Institute's Burma Project:

Human Rights Watch, Burma:

Free Burma Rangers:

The Irrawaddy:

Canadian Friends of Burma:

Voices of Burma

Democratic Voice of Burma:

Aung San Suu Kyi's Pages:

National Coalition Government of the Union of Burma (government-in-exile) website:

Burmese language news (courtesy of Nay Shun Oo): (English)

*Write to media outlets in your area or around the world requesting more coverage of the issue, send links to this site, as well as the other bloggers that are still getting news out. we're bringing in reports much faster than they are*

Tell them that you want more coverage on Burma. Send links to , this Facebook group, Burmese blogs. Send them these updates. Mention that we have members in our Facebook group with contacts in Burma that are confirming news updates.

Note that most of these are email addresses for Letters to the Editor; PLEASE correct me if you have better methods.

Be sure to protect your identity if you must; they have the right to publish your name and comments.

Please note that you can contact any major media outlet's NEWS BUREAU by phone according to your country

BBC: Use the form at the end of every Burma-related news story.

CNN: or

Associated Press:



Voice of America:

The Economist:

MSNBC: , Subject Line: To the Editor

Newsweek: ,

CBC Canada:

The Times (London):,,
Message - Report - Delete


Washington Post: (they must include home address, home and business telephone numbers)

New York Times: (USE THIS FIRST),,,

ABC News:, Subject Line: EDITORIAL

* please let the admin know if you've got other links we can send letters to*

Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Don't Miss Out on the 28IDC Early Bird Offer!

All you have to do is register online and pay on/before 1st Oct, and if you are the first 20 who'd registered & fully paid up, you will receive the early bird offer of RM10.00 rebate!


Camp Fee is RM75.00
Camp fee includes: camp material, tshirt, and meals for all four days of the camp.

:: because @ incovar ::
...we inspire...

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Wednesday, September 12, 2007

Watch out for the INCOVAR roadshow near you!

There will be a string of roadshows lined up starting next week!

Let's come together for these dates set for INCOVAR Roadshows, calling especially recent graduates from these universities to join us!
  • UPM on 18 September 2007 [Tue] at 7.30pm
  • MMU on 19 September 2007 [Wed] at 9pm (join the fun for the DSG potluck party!)
  • UM on 20 September 2007 [Thu] at 8pm
  • "Echoes of Buddhism#3" Concert @ Penang on 22 September 2007 [Sat]
  • KCBA ...(tbc)...
  • IMU ...(tbc)...

Let us don on the INCOVAR camp t-shirt & bring on the INCOVAR spirit along for these roadshows ;)

Please contact bro. Michael Lim at 012-5678023 or bro. Yong Wei at 012-6974758 for full detail on carpool arrangement / exact venue meetup.

...we inspire...

the beauty of Lord Buddha's light

Tuesday, September 11, 2007

BGF Mid Autumn Festival on 16 Sep [Sun]

Friday, September 07, 2007

"Simple Steps of Wisdom, Journey to Awakening"

The 28th INCOVAR Dhamma Camp which is themed "Simple Steps of Wisdom, Journey to Awakening" will be held from 29th Nov - 2nd Dec 2007 at Klang & Coast Buddhist Association (KCBA).

The 28th INCOVAR Dhamma Camp strives to bring a new perspective of mental cultivation in this fast paced, modern day lifestyle. By approaching mental cultivation as a daily practice that can be both fun and practical, this camp will bring participants to a new height of awareness that makes everyday life a journey of appreciation rather than merely the mundane.

The camp will also explore the individuality and expressions of each participant, to celebrate the unique quirks that defines our personality, even as we value the similarities that brings us together to nurture a fellowship of loving kindness and spiritual friends in support of each other.

Camp fee is RM75 but early bird rate of RM65 is applicable to the first 20 registration before 1 Oct 2007. Stay tuned for online registration service to be up by 9 Sep! Contact Ji Long @ 0123043438 for payment enquiries or click on "comment" below to post up any other enquiries.

because at INCOVAR,
...we inspire...

Tuesday, September 04, 2007

...we're on Facebook!

Hey check this out! INCOVAR group is now also on Facebook, so let's expand our network of beautiful friends ;)

I'm just thinking which is better Friendster or Facebook?

Monday, August 20, 2007

The DATE & VENUE of 28idc is set!

The DATE of the coming 28th INCOVAR Dhamma Camp, has to match the public universities' semester break... starts on a Thursday and ends on a Sunday.

29th Nov - 2nd Dec 2007
of course!

INCOVAR Dhamma Camp was held in this VENUE before for the 13th edition. And now the 28th IDC will return to this -- near the dead (cemetery), near the young (hospital nearby) and close to the moving (highway & petrol station) --

Klang & Coast Buddhist Association (KCBA)
of course!

Watch out this space for camp REGISTRATION info
& more puzzles to be solved.

The 25% discount on the RM75 camp fee goes to
Xiao Thoong!

because @ INCOVAR
...we inspire...

Monday, August 13, 2007

Guess the Date & Venue of 28IDC!

You know that 28IDC is taking place sometime in Nov-Dec 2007. Now the question is, exactly when, and where?


What's the prize then?
25% discount on 28IDC Camp Fee!

28IDC Committee Members, *reminder* please do not help/give away/suggest the answers to this contest! The entry will be automatically disqualified. Dun be a spoilsport ya.

1. Date – IDC always starts on a Thursday morning, ends on a Sunday afternoon. Sometime in year end.
2. Date - Check out public universities' calendar.
3. Venue – there are only so many temples/centres in Klang Valley that can accommodate Incovar.
4. Venue – What is near the dead? Yet also near the young? And close to the moving?

How to submit your answers? Read this carefully!
- Leave your answers through the 'comments' function on this post.
- All answers should submitted by 12midnight, 18 August 2007 (in other words, night of 17 August 2007)
- Any late submissions will not be entertained
- Each person is only entitled to three submissions

Who can join?
1. Everyone who wants to win EXCEPT 28IDC committee members (sorry guys!)
2. All participants except participants who join IDC more than 4 times.

1. All 'participants' – please do not bribe 28IDC Committee Members for the answers! Bribes in any forms are strictly prohibited. If we know of any willing giver and receiver, the entry will automatically be disqualified.
2. In the event of a two/more correct entries, the entry submitted earliest will be considered the winning entry.

Be creative people! There are other ways you can confirm these details besides the committee members. A chance to think out of the box! Good luck!

…we inspire…

Thursday, August 09, 2007

The visit to the old folks' home

There’s skin infection on her right arm. It has been troubling her for many years. There, she has to take care of her skin herself. At times, when the weather is hot, the infection will worsen causing her right arm to blemish and itch. When she sees doctor, she has to pay the medication fee herself. As a retired lady she does not have much money. Unlike what I thought, free medication is not provided for these old folks.

Chatting with her, I enquired about her hometown. She’s from Penang. She said she would like to go back Penang once a while, but she couldn’t. Her reply was short and simple, “How can I go back if I don’t have money?” She later explained that she usually return to Penang, her fond hometown, once every three years to visit her mother’s grave. She has to travel by herself via public transportation. My heart sank upon imagining an 80++ year old lady travelling by herself from Subang to Penang via public transport.

There’s another lady who advised me, “We have to be optimistic in life.”

“We can’t live our lives being sad or negative. We have to be open-minded and learn to let go.”

These words coming from an old lady living a much more difficult life compared to mine greatly affects me. If she is that strong within, I have to be stronger. Our visit is not that great a deed. Their sincere words for us were greater.

My fellow peers had shared their perception and experience of the visit with me. These old folks living together under one roof face difficult times too. Almost inevitably, people from different culture and background will have to deal with certain issues arises from their differences.

“There are political issues here too, you know?”

“There are people who don’t like to talk to you here. And even dislikes you.”

Being sent to old folks’ home is like being pushed out of the comfort and security of being with the familiar faces of our family.

While some of us may believe that the environment of old folks’ home cannot possibly be as bad as portrayed, the reality is far from truth. We would like to ask for your kindness to spend a few days of your precious time in visiting different old folks’ home. We would inevitably find old folks’ home with many deficiencies.

Considering the limited fund and resources, we cannot blame anyone for the shortcomings of old folks’ home. And we are aware that many parties are trying their level best to improve the old folks’ home.

But will it not be much more effective if five members in a family are willing to share the burden of taking care of two old folks? Yes, it requires sacrifices and lots of patience. But didn’t our parents sacrifice their time and energy in taking care of us till we grow up into who we are today.

We can only hope of seeing these old folks spending their invaluable remaining time in comfort, or with fewer difficulties at least, in the warmth and patience of their dearest family members.

I paid a visit to one of the old folk’s home the other day. Visiting old folks was something out of my expectation. But yet I went with an open heart.

I chatted with a 70 plus old man. I introduced myself, looked into his eyes, waiting for a reply and that’s when he told me that he can’t see. I was taken aback and tongue-tied for a moment. I was shocked and did not know how to continue my words.

An old man with visual disability stays in the old folk’s home? How does he take care of himself?
He seemed to understand the long pause and added that his wife is there with him, helping him and being there by his side.

Well, at least that’s a bit better, I thought. He tried to make it sounds like I-am –okay, but it still made my heart ache when he said he can’t walk fast because he can’t see, when he said that he kind of always slip and fall and it hurts, when he said he has problems getting to the toilet, when he said that his belongings must not be misplaced because that would mean spending a very long to search for his things.

Though he might think that I would not be able to understand him, but I do. I understand the bitterness and how tough it is to face all these sudden changes without family members being around (except the wife).

Interestingly, he then introduced me to a very famous doctor, saying it’s a “must-go” place if I ever, need one. He showed me the way, and drew the map, directing me as detailed as he could so that I won’t get lost.

I was, and still am so touched. He told a stranger thing that he thought is the best. This old man, whom I only met for 3 hours, did so without any expectation.

Before we went back that day, I handed him some goodie bags and an ang pau. We said goodbye and shook hands. He gave my hand a gentle squeeze before I left. The visit left me with precious memories, and at the same time, inspired me a lot.
(Huey Yee)

I felt there was a gap between us. Perhaps the old folks needed some time to open up their hearts. It is of no surprise that they are more reserved considering that they have been left there by their loved ones and have since been lonely there.

Well, fortunately, after about some time, they began to talk about their life stories and daily routine. As a matter of fact, many old people do love to talk for long hours! In other words, they are no different from any of us. They just wanted love, attention and someone they can connect to. The only difference I could see is that they are less fortunate because they have fewer opportunities to make friends compared to us.

There was one incident that really touched my heart. It is worth sharing to everyone. From my experience that day, I felt that all the old folks wanted me to know one thing. All of them told me the good stories about their children; how nice people their son is, how much salary they earn, how many grandchildren they have. All praise but no blames. They love their children so much! I remember it clearly. I could see it in their eyes. They still love their children even though their sons/daughters have sent them to the old folks’ home? Yes, because parents care for their children without expecting much in return.

If you are still staying with your parents, aren't you lucky? Because you still have the chance to appreciate them. You can still listen to them, dine with them or just be with them. Well, actually that was the first thing that came to my mind after speaking to one of the old folks.

We ended the visit by singing some hymns to them. At the end of it, I can see all of us felt good inside because we know that we have made another person happier that day.
(Gary Lim)

PS: By addressing the stories above, we hope to remind everyone to take care of our parents by ourselves instead of opting to old folks' home. Help us spread the words above to everyone by:
1) Publishing the stories above in your blog.
2) Forward it to your friends.

Thanks pals.

Monday, August 06, 2007

Countdown Merdeka with Fireworks!

To all my friends,

I'll be organising a trip to Putrajaya to watch the fireworks! The date is set for 30th Aug, 2007 on the eve of Merdeka Day which is a public holiday for all of us ;)

So here's the info from the ticketpro website, where you get the best view from venue PICC.

Price Category:
1st - With Dinner & Drinks - 148.50 RM
2nd - Without Dinner & Drinks - 38.50 RM

BUT THEN Again... wouldn't it be priceless to drive ourselves there, get ourselves a nice spot on one of the bridge near MOF, before the fireworks start firing at 10pm?

So what's your asnwer (click post comment below) :
Option A - buy the RM38.50 tickets, get front view from PICC
Option B - dont buy the tickets, find our own spot surrounding Putrajaya.

Wednesday, August 01, 2007

Best shots

Here's some of our best pictures from the camera during the Bagan Lalang / Tanjung Sepat trip:

Dunno what's the name lalang-white-flower by MJ
Mother & Child Picnic at the Beach by YT

Life Of The Vast by Ade

-mj : four? empat? u know empat? sei?-
-mj's pao half eaten-

-pray for the best-

(CO, LY... edit the post and add your best in!)

The fellowship outing that was...

Check out who when where what about the trip to Bagan Lalang & Tanjung Sepat.

Here's a blog about it..

and tons of pictures taken!

you may also visit my photo world.

Friday, July 27, 2007

Happy Birthday to you!

~ may your wishes come true & don't be so kayu! :P oops ~

Tuesday, July 24, 2007

Subang in India (?)

*WARNING - if your Geography is an examination flop... please skip this post!*

Technology isnt so great after all. and since it came from this site itself, here's some amusement.
Im not sure if you've come across it before. I havent before, but now i had. or was it a bug in my pc?

Your regular normal site... and while scrolling down....

Subang, MY had the flag of India...!

So where's Ambarpet...?

And now, it's in Great Britain!
and Birmingham is in India.... so the British colony went back to history!

So much for Geography lessons!

Thursday, July 19, 2007

Psst.... 28th...!

Monday started out as a guessing game....

We had clues, and alphabets as hints... and taking time off from the monotonous work routine and studying to guess...

the answer...?

So what are we looking for this time?

... better workshops...
... mind-blowing ideas ...
... brilliant ingenuity ...
... inspiring speakers ...
... that caterer you know which all will love ...
... location, location, location ...


We're looking for....

(it's not behind the door, or under the table)



we want YOU!!!
Interested? Inspired to take up the challenge?
give any of us a buzz NOW!

... we inspire ...

Friday, July 06, 2007

Preview of Trip to Bagan Lalang / Tanjung Sepat

How many of you have actually heard of the a calm and peaceful place called Bagan Lalang, situated a few kilometres from the town of Sungai Pelek in the district of Sepang, why in the state of Selangor of course! Heard about ikan bakar there, but usually people drive to Tanjung Sepat for the food. I'd personally like to take you for a stroll at the fishy-smelly jetty just for the fun of it! *urban girl talking*

There's no need for me to write more, you can read about it here, here & here.
Here's to INCOVARians, if you'd like to catch up with the people, just for a casual & fun day out, for me it's opportunity for photography, if you're interested to join email me!

The date is most tentatively set for :: 28th of July, Saturday.

Thursday, July 05, 2007

Post 27idc Appreciation Dinner @ BGF

This steamboat dinner held on 23rd June, Sat in BGF, was our way to thank all the committees, faci and helpers of the 27idc.. here's the photo-slide-revolver of these syiok sendiri people...
We had steamboat and lotsa fruits for dessert! Special thanks to Li-Kim, Wendy, KongJoo, Jay & SK, Yong Tien for helping to bring some food (and then sponsor it)! Supposedly exco treat everybody! ;) Don't exactly remember what Datuk Dr. Victor Wee had wanted to say, but it's along the line of INCOVAR as a network of Buddhist youths where we will be the future leaders to help service and develop the Buddhist community.

Thursday, June 21, 2007

shhooo tempted to post!!


Thursday, June 14, 2007

27IDC ~ what's your aspiration?

In this edition of the 27IDC held in SJBA in early June, just right before the big BCAF event, the most exciting part was the visitation workshop, where participants were split into 3 groups : 1 group headed to PAWS to help cleaning / painting, 1 group went to Rumah Shalom shelter home for kids to have fun, and another bigger group went to Sg Way to spend some memorable time with some 50+ old folks.
We must thank many of our sponsors and donors who helped chip in cash or kind for us to buy all the essential items to be donated to these 3 respective homes. Thank you to all the drivers who were facilitators or committees who convoyed together in their ribboned cars...
So what went about at all the 3 respective homes? Let's share in this blog about what happened and how you felt, and most importantly, what was your aspiration?

Remember the dreamcatcher...

And we will Reach Out to the world...
~Nature of the Heart, Nature of the World~